Christian dating when to say i love you

I think of the hundreds of men and women I know whose stories may have broken the mold of tradition or culture, but who never broke the calling of God on their lives because their stories were part of a bigger plan.

A plan that trumps the debate of “courtship” or “dating” but that asks each of us to move into relationships with wisdom, godliness, and nothing short of God’s leading in our lives.

Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life as well as the 21-Days To Jump Start Your Love-Life Program, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love.

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The pros of extremely involved family and friends in courtship, are the potential cons of a lack of boundaries within marriage.

For each pro, there is a potential con depending on who you are and how you approach relationships.

Dating tries to answer the question, How can I find the one who will make me happy?

The truth is, different personalities need different approaches to relationships. My only problem comes, then, with how “Dating” gets compared to “Courtship” in such a flawed and negative way.

Maybe you’ve noticed, but the Courtship movement is recently receiving some major attention from both national television and recent entertainment. I am not putting down the concept of courtship, and I never will.

Healthy relationships aren’t about eliminating cons, because that’s not possible, but instead, they are about making the most of our interactions with the opposite sex by doing them in a way that leaves us with no regrets.

And believe it or not, you CAN DATE with no regrets. Because it’s not ALL or NOTHING: We tend to talk about dating like it’s the “bad” way to do relationships: casual sex, zero commitment, no boundaries; whereas courtship is the “better way”: definite commitment, marriage-focus, and safe rules.

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